Have you always gotten what you've wanted in a negotiation? I have yet to meet a person who got everything he or she
wanted. However, there are ways to always get what we really
need. Do this by creating a comfortable environment. Here are four ways to create win/win negotiations:
Do all necessary research, think of possible outcomes, rehearse what you will say and set goals. Have an agenda and stick to it as closely as possible.
When you reach an agreement on something, take the time to summarize it. This allows both parties to recognize that progress is being made.
Be strong, yet not predictable. Keep others interested by staying ahead of them. This way, they have something to look forward to as the negotiation proceeds. Nonetheless, stay friendly and open. And when it fits, use humor to lighten up the process. Silence can be a sign of strength. If the other party makes an impossible demand, be quiet and reflect on it. Soon enough, the other person will realize that he or she has "crossed the line" and will probably withdraw.
Negotiating can be fun, empowering and enjoyable for both parties. It works only when all those involved feel as if they have won.